Smallest is biggest
Which is better, a day out shopping or a day out with your partner?
Which is better, spending $100 to impress a girl or a hand-made card, which took hours to complete?
Which is better, going out for a posh dinner in a grand hotel for your anniversary or spending $2 on a packet of nasi lemak, and sharing it together, feeding each other, under the watchful eyes of a million twinkling stars, whilst laughing at each other because of dirtying each other's face with sambal, and sharing moments of significance together?
Which is better?
The title of the post says it all. You can have the poshest of lifestyles, the riches of a millionaire, but will money buy happiness? Money will give smiles to others but ultimately, it's the smallest of things that will touch someone's heart. Hence, smallest is biggest.
The reason I wish to write about this is because of the boy. You know, the one I talk so much about. He called me, and he called me with tears in his eyes, and guilt in his voice. He called me telling me, how much of a mistake he's made.
You see, she was his first girlfriend. And well, he always thought lowly of himself because he could never afford things for her. He thought that he needed to make her happy by buying her a diamond ring, or a posh handbag, or a nice blouse. He thought that on anniversaries, he ought to be getting her something grand. And because he couldn't impress her and show his love for her through money, he felt bad. He was stupid to think that way.
But no. The girl wasn't of that sort. She NEVER asked him for something expensive. All she ever wanted from him was to spend time together. And that idiot could never see that. All he ever thought was that he needed to get her something expensive to show her how much he loved her. It doesn't mean that he thought she was an expensive girl. He just thought that, that was how relationships worked. It just never struck him that she didn't need expensive things. All she ever asked was for him to love her. She didn't need the gifts. All she needed was something small.
And well, kill him for doing this but now, he finally knows that, the biggest reason why the relationship failed was because of him. When he told me this, even I was left in awe.
On their 1 year anniversary, you know what they did? They headed down together to get him registered for Poly, they had Burger King together, and then, because she wanted to watch her drama series, he just let her go home. He didn't even use his brains to bring her out! And you what his reasons were? "She wanted to watch her drama, and I didn't have money to bring her out."
Look at how much of an idiot he was. Even if I was the girl, I would have been heartbroken. "I mean, yeah I wanna go watch my drama but come on, it's our anniversary. Dramas' mean nothing to me on a day like this. This day will only come once, so let's spend some time together. You are more important then my drama." That would have been what I would have been thinking if I was the girl. Why did he do something so stupid like that? Why did he create his own pain? Why did he do that?
And you know why he finally realised that he should have done better? Because he went to one of his friend's blog, and he saw what she typed. It was about her boyfriend surprising her on their anniversary. They bought rice and sat down eating it. And she said, "He bought a packet of rice and we sat down eating and talking the night away. Nothing beats that." Yes, it's in bold for you to see.
That was why he just thought that all along, he had been a horrible boyfriend for her.
She didn't need a posh dinner, or a beautiful ring. All she needed was to be together with him. She needed something small because for her, the smallest of things meant so much for her. At the start of the relationship he was doing that. Giving her surprises and making her so happy just by providing her with small stuff. Although he felt bad because he couldn't afford something big, she never made him feel that way. She was constantly happy with what he was doing for her. The smallest of things were the sweetest of things.
And now, right now, as he is beside me, talking to me while I'm writing about this, he feels agrieved by his actions. He just feel that he was the whole reason why she left him. She doesn't want to say anything but well, the reasons are painted on the wall. He just feels horrible. He never saw the meaning. The meaning of," The smallest of things are the biggest of delights one can give to others."
He always thought that he needed to give her big things. And now he knows, the only big thing she ever wanted, was something that came directly from his heart, not his wallet.
Please forgive him. Cause right now, he can't even forgive himself.
(But I guess it's no use now. What's done has been done. He has to learn the hard way. The painful way, but he still has to learn. I can see it's hurting him, but well, he deserves it. It's time for him to get up, and start afresh.)
LAter
Which is better, spending $100 to impress a girl or a hand-made card, which took hours to complete?
Which is better, going out for a posh dinner in a grand hotel for your anniversary or spending $2 on a packet of nasi lemak, and sharing it together, feeding each other, under the watchful eyes of a million twinkling stars, whilst laughing at each other because of dirtying each other's face with sambal, and sharing moments of significance together?
Which is better?
The title of the post says it all. You can have the poshest of lifestyles, the riches of a millionaire, but will money buy happiness? Money will give smiles to others but ultimately, it's the smallest of things that will touch someone's heart. Hence, smallest is biggest.
The reason I wish to write about this is because of the boy. You know, the one I talk so much about. He called me, and he called me with tears in his eyes, and guilt in his voice. He called me telling me, how much of a mistake he's made.
You see, she was his first girlfriend. And well, he always thought lowly of himself because he could never afford things for her. He thought that he needed to make her happy by buying her a diamond ring, or a posh handbag, or a nice blouse. He thought that on anniversaries, he ought to be getting her something grand. And because he couldn't impress her and show his love for her through money, he felt bad. He was stupid to think that way.
But no. The girl wasn't of that sort. She NEVER asked him for something expensive. All she ever wanted from him was to spend time together. And that idiot could never see that. All he ever thought was that he needed to get her something expensive to show her how much he loved her. It doesn't mean that he thought she was an expensive girl. He just thought that, that was how relationships worked. It just never struck him that she didn't need expensive things. All she ever asked was for him to love her. She didn't need the gifts. All she needed was something small.
And well, kill him for doing this but now, he finally knows that, the biggest reason why the relationship failed was because of him. When he told me this, even I was left in awe.
On their 1 year anniversary, you know what they did? They headed down together to get him registered for Poly, they had Burger King together, and then, because she wanted to watch her drama series, he just let her go home. He didn't even use his brains to bring her out! And you what his reasons were? "She wanted to watch her drama, and I didn't have money to bring her out."
Look at how much of an idiot he was. Even if I was the girl, I would have been heartbroken. "I mean, yeah I wanna go watch my drama but come on, it's our anniversary. Dramas' mean nothing to me on a day like this. This day will only come once, so let's spend some time together. You are more important then my drama." That would have been what I would have been thinking if I was the girl. Why did he do something so stupid like that? Why did he create his own pain? Why did he do that?
And you know why he finally realised that he should have done better? Because he went to one of his friend's blog, and he saw what she typed. It was about her boyfriend surprising her on their anniversary. They bought rice and sat down eating it. And she said, "He bought a packet of rice and we sat down eating and talking the night away. Nothing beats that." Yes, it's in bold for you to see.
That was why he just thought that all along, he had been a horrible boyfriend for her.
She didn't need a posh dinner, or a beautiful ring. All she needed was to be together with him. She needed something small because for her, the smallest of things meant so much for her. At the start of the relationship he was doing that. Giving her surprises and making her so happy just by providing her with small stuff. Although he felt bad because he couldn't afford something big, she never made him feel that way. She was constantly happy with what he was doing for her. The smallest of things were the sweetest of things.
And now, right now, as he is beside me, talking to me while I'm writing about this, he feels agrieved by his actions. He just feel that he was the whole reason why she left him. She doesn't want to say anything but well, the reasons are painted on the wall. He just feels horrible. He never saw the meaning. The meaning of," The smallest of things are the biggest of delights one can give to others."
He always thought that he needed to give her big things. And now he knows, the only big thing she ever wanted, was something that came directly from his heart, not his wallet.
Please forgive him. Cause right now, he can't even forgive himself.
(But I guess it's no use now. What's done has been done. He has to learn the hard way. The painful way, but he still has to learn. I can see it's hurting him, but well, he deserves it. It's time for him to get up, and start afresh.)
LAter
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