Let go
One of the most hardest words to say is Sorry.
One of the most hardest things to do is to be true to your word.
One of the most hardest admissions to do is to admit that Yes, it's your fault.
One of the most hardest action to do is, to Let go. Let go of something that means so much to you. Something, or someone that has been such a big influence in your life, it's so hard to just let it go. It's even tougher when you didn't even anticipate the departure of the item.
For instance, it's so hard to let go of your daughter, who one day, will be leaving your house after getting married. All the sweet memories of her bickering with the family, the times when she had her hair tied-up in pigtails. Just to see her grow throughout all the years has made you closer to her. And, it's just so hard to let her go away.
Another instance; It's so hard to let your kid do things without any assistance from you. You were the one who was there to tie his/her shoelaces, to brush his/her hair. You do that almost everyday till one day he/she says,"Mommy/Daddy, I can do it on my own." Certainly, you feel proud that you child is independant, but it's so hard to not hug your kid, or to tell them bedtime stories, to carry them till they fall to sleep, in your arms. Sometimes for people, it's tormenting.
How about a relationship? A friendship, a girl-boy relationship, a family relationship. It's so difficult to let go of the one you love. How to? You love them so much, that you are willing to do anything so them. You are willing to give up your live for them. Many people usually get carried away when they have something they desire so much for after a period of time. The mushy stuff, the gazing into each others eyes just don't happen as often. And when it does happen, it's because they encounter this rush of feelings that remind them how important they are to one another.
But what happens when they lose their most important element in their lives? How do they deal with the fact that it's gone, and that there's no chance of retrieving it back? How to deal with the agony and pain? The boy that I talk so much about, he was telling me something.
When he lost his girlfriend, he was dead. He had no energy. His body weakened, his brain just dysfunctioned. And, to him, it was something so sudden. Never did he see it coming. That was why he just couldn't let go. He didn't know that a break-up was so bad. He did things that he'd never do. His mind was just gone, literally. He couldn't think properly. Till this day, he can't remember fully what he did just a few days after the break-up. His head will just hurt so bad, that when he was telling me this, I could just see he was going through a lil bit of a recurrence. His head will be so pain that he couldn't do anything. He just couldn't let go.
So many months after the incident for him, he is better, he feels. And slowly, the pain is easing. And slowly, he's letting go. Slowly, he's letting go.
You see, the thing is, when we lose something, it's just so hard to let go of it because of the memories it brings. And well, almost everyone goes through this transitional period. The thought of letting go NEVER came across your head, that's why it was so difficult to do that. But as the saying goes, let time heal all the wounds.
Yes till this day the boy has recurrences of his past. It hurts him, not that much anymore as compared to last time, but yes occasionally, it hurts him alot. But he just constantly reminds himself that she is gone, and like a dead person, the relationship could never be revived back to life. He then just picks himself up and he reminds himself that it's no use brooding over the past because right now, his future is in his hands, and that his future is his to mould. And that he knows that whenever he does something, there are paths to take. Not all the paths lead to the right place, but sometimes, he has to learn from his mistakes.
And yes, we always see the bad side of letting go. We never see the good side of it. Who knows, he/she/it might have gone to a better place. And even if the place he/she/it has gone to is bad, don't blame yourself because it's not your fault. You can't do anything because it's beyond your control; You don't have the right to say what's best for them. But if possible, don't ever neglect them when they come back because, everybody makes mistakes, and that you too might encounter the same plight as them. And who knows, they might be the ones helping you the next time round.
LAter
One of the most hardest things to do is to be true to your word.
One of the most hardest admissions to do is to admit that Yes, it's your fault.
One of the most hardest action to do is, to Let go. Let go of something that means so much to you. Something, or someone that has been such a big influence in your life, it's so hard to just let it go. It's even tougher when you didn't even anticipate the departure of the item.
For instance, it's so hard to let go of your daughter, who one day, will be leaving your house after getting married. All the sweet memories of her bickering with the family, the times when she had her hair tied-up in pigtails. Just to see her grow throughout all the years has made you closer to her. And, it's just so hard to let her go away.
Another instance; It's so hard to let your kid do things without any assistance from you. You were the one who was there to tie his/her shoelaces, to brush his/her hair. You do that almost everyday till one day he/she says,"Mommy/Daddy, I can do it on my own." Certainly, you feel proud that you child is independant, but it's so hard to not hug your kid, or to tell them bedtime stories, to carry them till they fall to sleep, in your arms. Sometimes for people, it's tormenting.
How about a relationship? A friendship, a girl-boy relationship, a family relationship. It's so difficult to let go of the one you love. How to? You love them so much, that you are willing to do anything so them. You are willing to give up your live for them. Many people usually get carried away when they have something they desire so much for after a period of time. The mushy stuff, the gazing into each others eyes just don't happen as often. And when it does happen, it's because they encounter this rush of feelings that remind them how important they are to one another.
But what happens when they lose their most important element in their lives? How do they deal with the fact that it's gone, and that there's no chance of retrieving it back? How to deal with the agony and pain? The boy that I talk so much about, he was telling me something.
When he lost his girlfriend, he was dead. He had no energy. His body weakened, his brain just dysfunctioned. And, to him, it was something so sudden. Never did he see it coming. That was why he just couldn't let go. He didn't know that a break-up was so bad. He did things that he'd never do. His mind was just gone, literally. He couldn't think properly. Till this day, he can't remember fully what he did just a few days after the break-up. His head will just hurt so bad, that when he was telling me this, I could just see he was going through a lil bit of a recurrence. His head will be so pain that he couldn't do anything. He just couldn't let go.
So many months after the incident for him, he is better, he feels. And slowly, the pain is easing. And slowly, he's letting go. Slowly, he's letting go.
You see, the thing is, when we lose something, it's just so hard to let go of it because of the memories it brings. And well, almost everyone goes through this transitional period. The thought of letting go NEVER came across your head, that's why it was so difficult to do that. But as the saying goes, let time heal all the wounds.
Yes till this day the boy has recurrences of his past. It hurts him, not that much anymore as compared to last time, but yes occasionally, it hurts him alot. But he just constantly reminds himself that she is gone, and like a dead person, the relationship could never be revived back to life. He then just picks himself up and he reminds himself that it's no use brooding over the past because right now, his future is in his hands, and that his future is his to mould. And that he knows that whenever he does something, there are paths to take. Not all the paths lead to the right place, but sometimes, he has to learn from his mistakes.
And yes, we always see the bad side of letting go. We never see the good side of it. Who knows, he/she/it might have gone to a better place. And even if the place he/she/it has gone to is bad, don't blame yourself because it's not your fault. You can't do anything because it's beyond your control; You don't have the right to say what's best for them. But if possible, don't ever neglect them when they come back because, everybody makes mistakes, and that you too might encounter the same plight as them. And who knows, they might be the ones helping you the next time round.
LAter
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